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عورت کو غیرت کیوں نہیں آتی ؟


there is no honor in killing



عورت کو غیرت کیوں نہیں آتی !


غیرت کے نام پر صرف عورتیں ہی 

 قتل کیوں ہوتی ہیں؟   یہ سوال بار بار

 ایک کیڑے کی طرح میرے دماغ میں

 کلبلاتا رہتا ہے۔ میں اپنے آپ سے یہ 

سوال بار بار کرتی  ہوں مگر جواب ندارد۔کتابوں میں بھی ڈھونڈا، سیانوں سے بھی پوچھا، حکیم ڈاکٹروں سے بھی لیکن کوئی نتیجہ نہ نکلا۔ عورت کا معاملہ ہو تو ہر قسم کی غیرت صرف مردوں میں ہی جاگتے دیکھی، بھائی ہوں ، باپ ہوں یا شوہر نامدار سب کے سب با غیرت نکلے۔اور بے غیرتی صرف عورت کے حصے میں آئی ۔

 بُری عورت کی اصطلاح  نے بھی جنم لے لیا کیونکہ مرد تو بُرا ہوتا ہی نہیں۔گویا عورت اپنے ساتھ برائی لے کر پیدا 

ہوئی اور اس کی برائی میں کوئی شریک ِ کار نہیں کوئ سہولت کار نہیں وہ اکیلی ہی اپنے گناہوں کی ذمہ دار ٹھہری۔

یہ وہ واحد گناہ ہے کہ جس میں صرف ایک ہی فریق کو ذمہ دار اور گناہگار مانا  اور جانا جاتا ہے ۔ یہ تو معاملہ ہے 

معاشرے کی سطح پر۔

گھروں اور خاندانوں میں تو اس بُری عورت کو سزا دینے میں کوئی تاخیر نہیں کی جاتی اور دامے درمے سخنے اس کی 

مرمت ہوتی  ہی رہتی ہے۔ روز مرہ کی گالی گلوچ ، مار کُٹائی سے لے کرہر قسم کا تشدد اور قتل  سب جائز ہے کیونکہ

 مرد کو غیرت آتی ہے۔

آخر اس بے غیرت عورت کو غیرت کیوں نہیں آتی؟

علی شریعتی کہتے ہیں ’’ مجھے بڑا افسوس ہوتا ہے جب میں دیکھتا ہوں کہ کوئی عورت گناہ کرتی ہے مگر اُس کو چھپانے

 کیلئے داڑھی نہیں  رکھ سکتی ۔‘‘

خیر یہ تو ایک  حوالہ تھا اور  اس داڑھی سے  بھی مجھے کوئی غرض نہیں ، سمجھنے کی بات یہ ہے  مرد سب کچھ کرکے

  بھی مکھن سے بال کی طرح صاف نکل جاتا ہے اور پھنس جاتی ہے یہ بے وقوف عورت۔

بہن ہوکر بھائی کے خطوط خوشی سے اس کی محبوبہ کو پہنچاتی ہے۔ بیوی ہوکر خاوند کی بد کاریوں پر پردہ ڈالتی ہے اور 

طوائف ہو تو مردوں کی دل پشور ی کا سامان تو ہے ہی۔مگر مجال ہے جو ذرا سی بھی غیرت  آئے۔ اگر اس جگہ کوئی

 مرد ہوتا تو لاشیں گرا دیتا۔ غیرت مند جو ٹھہرا !

تازہ مثال  قندیل بلوچ کی ہے، سُنا ہے بہت ہی بُری  عورت تھی ، سارا  زمانہ جانتا تھا، سُنا ہے بڑی بے باک تھی کبھی

 اپنی برائی کو چھپایا بھی نہیں  ماں باپ  بھائی بہنوں کی  پوری ذمہ داری اٹھاتی تھی مگر بھائی کی غیرت اس وقت جاگی 

جب  اس کو  نشے کیلئے پیسے دینا بند کر دیئے۔ غیرت مند بھائی تھا برداشت نہ کرسکا اور اس  بُری عورت کو دنیا سے 

ہی اٹھا دیا۔کمال کردیا !

کاش ! ایک دن ایسا بھی آئے کہ کچھ عورتوں کو بھی غیرت آئے

شیخ چلی کا خواب صحیح، دیکھنے میں کیا حرج ہے!













  








Women can Bootstrap their Career too

Bootstrapping Your Career 

Bootstrapping your career 


Bootstrapping YourCareer is written by Hammad Siddiqui . A book about career development, Job recruitments, personal grooming and everything which can help you to boost not only your career but your life too. If you think that the book may contain a lot of pages, difficult tasks, and complex processes, then you are wrong, a book of 125 pages written in a very simple way.  Book based on real life experiences of Hammad sahib with daily life examples. He simplified the tangled processes in a very possible way.

The book has 8 chapters and every chapter is a masterpiece. From start to think about your career till grab your dream position,  this book will take you the place where you want to stay forever.   I found the situations and advises more acceptable for us because the book is written particularly for the Pakistani job market.

As I am a big supporter of Social Media, The chapter about social media attracted me a lot. I love the phrase “Your Network is your Net worth”. Readers will get excellent tips for the productive use of social media.

From the chapter about Tools, Trick and Techniques, I got the answer of the most difficult questions of the history of the interviews “Where do you see yourself after five years? “  I hope other readers will also get their desired answers from the book, like me.

Another thing which I like most is “Five biggest career regrets” in chapter 7, which can help to anyone for a better planning for career growth.

Chapter 8, the career questioned answered, is very interesting and readers can express well in their interviews by adopting these wonderful ideas.


Conclusion:  Bootstrapping your career is an exceptionally good helping tool for career development not only for the new comers but for the professionals too. Highly recommended for the masses.


Special Note :  Bootstrapping your career is an   “equal opportunity “ type book, means no gender restrictions, Girls , professional or nonprofessional women can also get help from the book to boost their career and life too.




The writer Hammad Siddiqui  is currently serving in center for International private Enterprise as deputy Country Director. He writes at http://hammadsiddiquiblog.com

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To order your own copy of Bootstrapping Your Career, send an email to bootstrappingyourcareer@gmail.com  or  from  http://booksestore.com


Are you ready for the Change ??


I read an Article in Daily Dawn under the heading " Women in White "  found it really interesting , written by Ambreen Arshad ,  share here for my online friends.

Women in White 

Women in Pakistan Navy 



Seafarers have always been men, in all eras and cultures — be it as merchants, explorers, pirates or defenders. Is it the sea or the isolation at sea that makes it unwise for men and women to work in close proximity for days and months? Whatever it is, breaking the glass ceiling in the navy is not the done thing, except for a few countries, such as the US, where females are on board naval vessels working in different, traditionally male, domains.
Thus, understandably, women in Pakistan Navy have no combat roles to play. They are inducted in supporting roles in departments deemed more suitable for the fairer sex, such as education, medical, public relations, information technology, law and logistics. When inducted in the Short Service Commission course, they may not have the same career paths as their male counterparts but these ladies undergo the same kind of nine-month intensive training at the Naval Academy, which they undertake along with men. They are required to flex a few muscles while undergoing tough physical training that includes running, sprint, rope climbing, rope skipping, horse riding and swimming. Sailing and handling small arms are also part of their training now.
In addition, they also participate in practical leadership exercises, sports and co-curricular activities to further enhance their skills and strength, making them more suitable for playing their roles, though supporting ones, in the armed forces. Short Service Commission is of five years that can be extended/converted into permanent commission.
The first batch of females was inducted in August 1997, which comprised six females who specialised as pharmacists, dieticians, public relations officers and statisticians, while the latest batch of commissioned officers to pass out on June 30, 2013, had 10 women. But much before these women joined Pakistan Navy through proper induction in a course, many female officers have donned the white uniform whenever their services have been required, to be part of the traditionally more female-friendly corps — education and medical. The largest number of females in Pakistan Navy are inducted in the education department, followed by medical, where many are graduates of Army Medical College, Rawalpindi.
Women in Pakistan Navy have attained the ranks of captain (which is equivalent to the rank of a full colonel in the army) and most of the high-ranking officers are part of the medical corps. Cadet Beenish Zaidi, on receiving the Commandant Gold Medal when passing out from the Naval Academy, has proved that, like in the other branches of the armed forces, women have also stood out during their training period in the navy.
While recent years have shown much progress for women in the other two branches of the armed forces, with women proving their mettle as paratroopers and fighter pilots, they will not be taking to the sea in the foreseeable future as defenders of our sea frontiers. Keeping them safely on land, serving supporting roles and finding their own niche in clearly defined areas of work is all that the navy can promise its female officers.
But who can blame them for this discrimination? It isn’t that they don’t have faith in the capabilities of their female officers — they just don’t have faith in their male officers. (Isn’t this true of all males in our society, a feminist may ask!) Until male attitudes and views change — probably when hell freezes over — this cannot change.

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Fahmina Arshad is Blogger, Social Media Activist, Women Rights activist, women rights defender, feminist, women issues advisor and ambitious to work for Women Growth in Pakistan.

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